supportive, involved, encourage,
praise, listen, explain, reward, trust, inspire enforce rules, patience, affectionate, healthy lifestyle
SET UP FOR SUCCESS
At first, choose less difficult behaviours to target for change to create success;
then your child can see that change is possible.
"success is the sum of small efforts repeated
day in and day out"
LEARN EFT TAPPING
You can tap with your child to encourage participation and a sharing experience.
You can surrogate tap for your child to help them calm down without them knowing.
You can tap for yourself to feel calm, relaxed and in control to handle your child's difficult behaviours in a positive light, also creating calm energy for your child.
HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
Age appropriate expectations assists in alleviating child & parent frustration and disappointment.
Example: 5yr old Layla could help you make her bed every morning and she could help clean her room by following simple instructions.
She cannot be expected to do these tasks
to perfection on her own.
Be Specific in your Statements of Praise
Increased future compliance
Example: ‘Good job packing up all the pool toys Tom’.
Show behaviour is disliked
not the child
Example : ‘Stop making that noise, the noise is upsetting me, your behaviour is
not good at the moment’.
Make your request
positive, firm & precise
Include a time frame & include one instruction at a time
Example: Mark, please clean up your room before dinner. You can start by picking up your clothes. When you finish come & see me for a reward and another task.
(quick reward could be a hug, verbal praise, quick snack etc)
Example: Karen picked up all her toys stacking them neatly away; she gets a reward of hugs, verbal praise & 15 minutes extra tv time
Example: Peter takes out the rubbish without being asked; he gets peace from his father yelling at him to do his job and stop being lazy
Ignoring & Extinction
Only conduct in a safe environment
Example: Do not look at your child or make eye contact, do not talk to or yell at your child. Go about your business as if nothing is happening.
When your child stops the negative behaviour immediately look at your child and give praise for the improved behaviour. Do not mention the negative behaviour