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supportive, involved, encourage,

praise, listen, explain, reward, trust, inspire enforce rules, patience, affectionate, healthy lifestyle


At first, choose less difficult behaviours to target for change to create success;

then your child can see that change is possible.

"success is the sum of small efforts repeated

day in and day out"


 You can tap with your child to encourage participation and a sharing experience.

You can surrogate tap for your child to help them calm down without them knowing.

You can tap for yourself to feel calm, relaxed and in control to handle your child's difficult behaviours in a positive light, also creating  calm energy for your child.


Age appropriate expectations assists in alleviating child & parent frustration and disappointment. 


Example: 5yr old Layla could help you make her bed every morning and she could help clean her room by following simple instructions.

She cannot be expected to do these tasks

to perfection on her own.

Be Specific in your Statements of Praise

Increased future compliance

Example: ‘Good job packing up all the pool toys Tom’.

Show behaviour is disliked

not the child

Example : ‘Stop making that noise, the noise is upsetting me, your behaviour is

not good at the moment’.

Make your request

positive, firm & precise

Include a time frame & include one instruction at a time

Example: Mark, please clean up your room before dinner. You can start by picking up your clothes.  When you finish come & see me for a reward and another task.

(quick reward could be a hug, verbal praise, quick snack etc)


Adding reward

Example: Karen picked up all her toys stacking them neatly away; she gets a reward of hugs, verbal praise & 15 minutes extra tv time


Subtracting punishment

Example: Peter takes out the rubbish without being asked; he gets peace from his father yelling at him to do his job and stop being lazy

Ignoring & Extinction

Only conduct in a safe environment

Example: Do not look at your child or make eye contact, do not talk to or yell at your child. Go about your business as if nothing is happening.

When your child stops the negative behaviour immediately look at your child and give praise for the improved behaviour. Do not mention the negative behaviour

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